The Non-Violent Communicator

This is part of my Forever Grateful project.
As I was selling my home and placing my business on hiatus for a period of time, I took portraits of about 30 people who influenced my career over the past 12 years. This was my way of saying “Thanks” and letting everyone know that I couldn’t have done it without their support.


Thank you for your confidence in me and your patience with me. Because of our mutual friends in the comedy world, you reached out to me with an opportunity to shoot a number of spiritual guides and healers. I was very resistant and guarded at the time. I had been struggling with issues regarding the monetary value of my services and, on a deeper level, the purpose and direction of my work.

But, as always, the fear and concern I had was because of the life I had been living and not the direction I wanted to go. The new clientele you introduced me to saw the value in my work, my experience, and in me. Not only that, this new clientele wasn’t interested in fame or fortune; they were on a mission to help heal the world.

Thank you for introducing me to a better world and showing me that it is possible to make a living while doing my part to make a difference.

Forever Grateful,


The Story Behind the Shoot:

After several photo shoots with Jon’s clients, he and I met for dinner and drinks one night. He suggested that I read the book Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. I never thought of myself as a violent person.

Physically, I’m a pacifist. Case in point, after taking Kenpo Karate for a month, I opted to back out of classes because I was going to have to hit someone as well as let someone hit me. Instead I took ballroom dancing classes. And verbally I don’t tend to scream or call people names. But, Jon was right. After reading this book, I realized the ways in which my communication skills were a little violent and could use some work.

I remembered a photo of a Vietnam protester placing a flower down the barrel of a rifle… somewhat similar to what Jon did to me.

Jon Griffin - photo by Blake Gardner Photography
Jon Griffin – photo by Blake Gardner Photography
Jon Griffin - photo by Blake Gardner Photography
Jon Griffin – photo by Blake Gardner Photography

You can read more from my Forever Grateful project HERE.

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